Tuesday 6 March 2018

Don’t let anger get the better of you

Although anger can be a ‘normal’ emotion if it gets out of control and starts impacting your life and relationship detrimentally then it’s time to take control and get some professional. Our anger management counselling and Cognitive Behavioral Therapy Ashford Kent can help you do just that.

Anger has affected us all at some point in our lives, it’s a common emotion, which can range from irritability and annoyance, through to rage. Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) suggests that anger is an ‘unhealthy negative emotion’ and there is no room for it in our lives. This is because, in general, anger is based on what are called irrational beliefs. Beliefs that life has treated us unfairly or someone has violated our internal beliefs about how we think someone ‘should’ or ‘should not’ behave.





Anger can be serious and have a detrimental effect on your own mental and physical health and the people around you.  When we hold on to the belief that we have been unfairly treated or that others have broken our moral code, principals, standards or expectations, we can then fall into a ‘catastrophising’ trap. This is where we angrily claim that we can’t or won’t tolerate it! This unhelpful way of thinking leads to anger, which in turn stimulates the body's adrenaline response, sometimes resulting in us behaving in in a threatening or aggressive manner. Anger Management Counselling Ashford can help you with this and enable you to deal with things in a more helpful, rational and logical way.

When we experience anger we all express it different ways. Some people act out immediately by shouting and more seriously acting with physical violence.  Whilst others suppress their anger in the short term but go on to act in a passive aggressive manner by sulking, being obstructive, ignoring someone, manipulating people or situations.  A person who behaves in this way might not always show that they are angry, but underneath they are. Our Anger Management Counselling Ashford will help you deal with these negative emotions.

The type of anger management counselling we use is called Cognitive Behavioural Therapy. CBT takes the view that there are helpful and unhelpful ways of reacting to a situation; determined the meaning we attach to it. If we have a tendency to run with our interpretation rather than fact, then is negative, unhelpful emotions and behaviour.

Cognitive Behavioural Therapy CBT suggests that anger is not necessary and it does change anything.  Remaining calm whilst dealing with a problem enables you to deal with it more rationally. A perfect example is driving.  You may well feel annoyed if somebody cuts you up, however, choosing respond in an angry fashion, does not change something that has already happened. CBT suggest, you do not need to ‘like’ it when someone does or says something that you don’t happen to agree with, but you need to take responsibility for the reaction to your thoughts and respond more calm, logical way and not let your anger get the better of you!

So if you need help with Anger Management contact CBT and Counselling Kent today and book some time with Anger Management Counselling Ashford Kent.

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