If you struggle with persistent anxiety, it is likely that overthinking and worrying is partly to blame. Although you may feel worrying is beneficial by protecting us from being unprepared, for the majority of people it causes more problems than it solves. Why not seek the help of our counsellors Ashford who practice cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT) which has been proven to help reduce Anxiety.
When you find yourself worrying, just take some time to look at the things you can control as opposed to things you can’t. It’s important to recognise that, sometimes, all you can control is your response. When putting energy into the things you can control, you'll find yourself being more effective and productive.
Our Counsellors Ashford Kent suggest; people can prefer or influence certain situations, but they can't demand things go your way. For example; you can give your child the tools needed to do well in exams and encourage revision but you can't make them pass. You can plan a good party, but you can't make people have fun.
Have a long, hard think and be honest with yourself as to what you are really afraid will happen? Are you catastrophising the outcome without really thinking things through? Do you doubt your ability to cope if things don’t turn out as you wanted? More often than not, our worst-case scenario rarely happens. However, teach yourself to think, if my worst case to happen, I may not like it, but I will of course deal with it. There's a good chance you are stronger than you think. If you want help with identifying your negative thoughts and fears contact our Counsellors Ashford Kent.
By identifying and challenging our unhelpful thought processes we keep ourselves in check. When you find yourself catastrophising about something you have no control over then it is unhelpful. Telling yourself "people have to think that I my presentation is good at work tomorrow or it will be terrible!" is irrational - because it doesn’t change the fact that they might not like it. However, if you talk to yourself in a more helpful, rational way, such as “I would prefer it if everyone liked my presentation, it will be disappointing if they don’t, however I will of course deal with it if that does happen”
Our Counsellors Ashford Kent suggest that there are some questions to ask yourself to help you rationalise your anxiety.
1) What is your worst case scenario in this situation?
2) How many times before has your worst case scenario actually happened?
3) What steps can you take to reduce any like hood that the worst case might happen?
4) What is your best case in this situation or most likely scenario?
6) List all other possible scenarios/outcomes in this situation? How would you respond/behave?
7) If your worst case scenario was to happen – how would you deal with it? Visualise this in your mind. How would you respond/behave?
8) Is it productive worrying about this? Is it going to change the outcome?
For help – Contact one of our Counsellors at Counselling and CBT Ashford Kent.
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